We all have ladies in our lives.

Grandmother, mother, daughter/s, sister/s, girlfriend / wife, sister in law and so on.

You must know, if you are not knowing this till now, that females seek male validation.

They live on it.

It is their drug of enthusiasm to live their life.

They feel extremely happy when a man they look up to validates them, loves them and shows care and affection to them, aside from giving protection to them.

You as a man of your home, must give that without them asking.

Because if you do not, they will definitely seek it from the outside men.

This is one of the reasons women become promiscuous because they don’t get male validation from the men in their family.

Men, especially in India, are very much on the extremes.

Either they are playful all the time, which makes them clowns or they are strict and emotionless all the time, which makes them rigid.

Very few men, I’ve seen, can balance it.

And, that is what you have to be.

Strict when times require it and playful when it is necessary.

Do not see playfulness as something less important, especially when it comes to girls and ladies in your life.

Note: I’ve discussed playfulness and other secrets in detail in the Indian Girl Manifesto.

So, now you know why you need to show affection to your ladies because otherwise they will seek it from outside and your life is fucked.

How can you respect yourself as a man, if women in your life do not respect you?

Now, let me tell you how you can show validation to the ladies in your life.

It doesn’t matter whether she is your mother, sister, grandmother or anyone else.

It works on every woman.

Let’s start.

Touch them, Physically

First, is to touch them, physically.

So many men do not touch their daughters, mothers, grandmothers after they have grown up.

If you have a daughter who has reached puberty, it is even more necessary to give her hugs and a pat on the back or a shoulder for her to lean on.

Because her hormones are out of control, and she needs a male to at least calm them down.

You as a father must do that.

Give her forehead kisses.

Give her hugs.

Be playful with her for some time during the day.

Remember this, she constantly needs male validation.

Keep this in mind all the time.

And who better to give her that than her own father.

Surprisingly, the same goes with your mother and grandmother as well.

You may not give them forehead kisses, but you can be playful with them.

Tease them, touch their feet in the morning.

You can joke with them.

As you behave with a child under 5 years of age, you can be like that with the ladies in your life for some time in your day.

In my experience, it doesn’t take more than half an hour of your day.

Now, let’s come to the second point.

Appreciate them

You must appreciate them.

If a sabzi (cooked vegetables) isn’t cooked well, many people including you and me will point it out to our wives or mothers.

But what about the other dishes that were cooked well?

Did you appreciate them?

Remember, I told you, in the beginning of this email, women live on male validation.

Appreciation is one of the biggest parts of male validation.

If she has cooked daal (lentil) well, you must say that to her in front of everyone.

I even appreciate when the roti or rice are cooked well.

And, they love it.

Also, when something is not cooked well, I ask if there is something missing or something extra in the soup?

Don’t directly point out the imbalance in the cooking.

Same goes with their dressing also.

If your girlfriend has worn something nice, you must say it.

You must be saying it to her.

But you should say this to your mother, grandmother and to your daughter as well.

In short, appreciate them.

On little things.

If I have to give you a list to appreciate them, here it is:

On their cooking
On their dressing
On the work they do
Just random compliments (this works the best)

Now, let’s come to the third point.

Address their Insecurities

Address their Insecurities.

Women are insecure.

We’ve already talked about ladies needing male validation.

But do you know why?

Because they are insecure. In fact, everyone is insecure to a certain extent.

But the point with women is that they want to get validated from the important men in their lives.

That is all they need to not feel insecure for the time being.

Again, after a few days, they might become insecure for a different thing.

Your job as a man is to give them validation and make them feel secure or at least less insecure.

How do you do that?

By being positive around her and giving her praises (not hollow praises).

In the above points, we talked about touching them physically and appreciating them and those two points stack up.

It means when you follow the above two points, it adds up at the time of making the ladies in your life feel more secure and removing insecurities.

If she has become fat, you must tell her the truth but you also tell her that she can become slim again by exercising, walking and so on.

If you have in the past appreciated her, she will value you more and work on becoming slim.

This is what I meant by saying that it all adds up.

She will come to you at certain times and sometimes she won’t but the point here is that, you should know when she is feeling insecure.

If you are observant enough, and have lived with someone for more than 6 months, you will know it.

Drive her insecurities out of her life till she comes back with something else and then repeat the process.

One important shift that will happen in your life when you do all the above 3 is that you become the man she loves.

You naturally become a higher value man if you apply this on your girlfriend / wife.

I’ve written this email with much care and thought.

If you are not doing all or any of the above 3, you can start applying from today.

You will see the results instantly.

Let me know how it goes.
You know where to reach me.

With love,
TTIG

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